On a recent trip to London I visited an Italian restaurant, Bernardi’s, which I’d read about in a Bloomberg review.

A starter arrived with some focaccia and olive oil and I started to talk with the waiter about the oil, which was surprisingly fresh and peppery. He told me was from Puglia, the only source for real olive oil, according to him.

He’d moved to London five years ago, and was soon to make his first trip back to Italy since he’d left. During the five years his extended family had visited nine times, including his 98-year old grandfather, who was a builder (“muratore,” or literally “builder of walls”) and is illiterate. His grandfather had never traveled much in Italy, let alone been on a plane, until his grandson moved to London. He’s now confident in airports, and loves to come to London, where he walks for hours, comparing building techniques. My waiter friend had just bought his first flat in his new home. Somehow his move had not only worked out well for him, but given a gift of adventure to his whole family.

Even in the middle of Marylebone I realized, yet again, what I love about the Italians.  I remembered John telling me about the Italian woman he’d met on a plane, who had moved to Australia, who said that the thing she’d noticed most about the Italian diaspora is that they always land on their feet. I think that has something to do with a certain lightness about life.

On my walk to the restaurant I happened to pass a hotel where I’d stayed with my parents when I’d first moved to London for a year right after I’d graduated from university. Seeing the hotel brought back the feeling of fear my parents and I had in our stomachs that week—at the time, London was as foreign to my family as Mars. Looking back I can’t believe that my parents had the kind of trust in me (and the universe), support, and courage to let me listen to my heart and move. I am sure they knew in their souls that what they were seeding would eventually take me far away from them. That year in London ended up being one of the greatest adventures, and most important experiences, of my life. And it did result in my moving far away, permanently.

Bravi to the parents, and grandparents, who have the courage to set their children free to find their own paths, and find ways to expand their own worlds. May I be as bold.